toxic relationships

"A Perfect Ending to A New Beginning"                      

By: Brady Holland

(My Apology/Thank You/Letting Go, Letter to an Indescribably Rare, Beautiful Young Woman)

"Keep in mind this letter was written in less than a week, it was then about one week later that I had even decided to start writing The Life of our Idea, but it is the entire foundation for Our Trilogy: Time and apparently all of my missing answers that I didn't even know I was looking for.. Igniting something within myself that I had been trying my hardest to suppress deep down inside of me for many years now, all thanks to one very special person, in which our lives just so unexpectedly happened to cross one another's path.. Unfortunately those paths couldn't meet up, walking down the same road together, but what came about afterwards as an ending/beginning result, well let’s just say I literally owe that young woman the world now! Here is my gift to our readers, how we turned something so horrible brewing inside of me, into something so unexpectedly beautiful.. You deserve to know some of your author's past." -B.R.H  

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Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all barriers within yourself that you have built against it ~ Rumi

Toxic relationships come in all forms and can be detrimental in so many ways but also offer the greatest opportunity for growth and learning. It’s within the mindset of growth that we can begin to navigate and resolve relationship toxicity issues in order to release and move on. This can be a very difficult thing to accomplish since the toxicity is much like a drop of ink that spoils the entire well leaving a cellular toxicity, much like an allergic reaction, to this kind of abusive relationship. The poisoning of the well leaves us feeling “tainted” and eventually leaves behind a continuous cycle of grief in the emotions of denial, bargaining, anger, and pain that never leads to the Acceptance we seek in the form of Unconditional Love.

In the big picture, no one has “permission” to bring toxicity into our energy field unless we Allow it. However, sometimes the toxicity sets in on a cellular level when this kind of relationship is born in childhood before we have earliest memories or have even learned to communicate in some cases. It can become a challenge in learning to separate one’s own “energy” from the energy of the poisonous relationship so it’s important to have insight into how to let go and/or navigate the relationship in a different way.