10 Tips to Reduce Festive Frazzle & bring Serenity to the Season
T’is the season to be jolly…but what if you’re feeling anything but?
The season of goodwill is generally characterised by merriment and cheer, seen as a time to celebrate with those we hold dear. But for many people Christmas can be a tremendously challenging and stressful time, compounded by the social expectations to be ‘happy’ and live up to the idealised image of the ‘perfect family’ presented to us in films and on TV.
Whilst I am truly blessed to spend Christmas with a loving caring family with whom I share many a fond festive memory, I realise it’s not like that for everyone. I spare a thought for those coping with adversity, bravely battling behind the facade of an outward smile, silently crying on the inside. I’ve been there, and know all too well how the festive season tends to exasperate and highlight our challenges, driving many people over the edge. It’s common knowledge that suicide rates peak at Christmas and New Year as stress levels, emotions and mounting debt reach boiling point. The consumerist pressure to purchase hits us like a ton of bricks, and often leaves a crippling effect upon our bank balance and anxiety levels.
If you define a situation as positive, no matter what the circumstances, it can then morph into that experience with the expectation you have. It is easy to know this yet hard to do it unless you get deliberate and intentional in how you experience the world. This is a call to change your perception to not defining something as bad, and to be open to how it could play out if you don't define it at all or if you are able to see any situation as potentially positive for your path. We are conditioned to judge situations as being bad or good for us, and it is hard to expect something good to come out of what has happened to you that is causing unhappiness when we think about it. That being said, we have to feel the emotions authentically first in order to move to a place of seeing the potential good. Maybe it involves stepping back and observing ourselves to do this. Reframing any situation toward the positive completely changes what is possible, though.
We spend way too much time in spiritual practices trying to leave our bodies. We try to go to the Other World instead of consciously bringing more of our soul into our physical bodies. When we integrate matter and spirit – real miracles happen.
How does one recognize the voice of the heart from the voice of the ego? Have you ever asked yourself this question? Sometimes the ego is so clever, trained, and educated that it pretends to be the Heart Voice. Yet, there is one key element that points to whether it’s the ego or heart voice. If what you are told is good for you and All Life, then it is being transmitted through the heart from the soul. If it is only and exclusively good for you, it is coming through the mind and is of the ego. It’s that simple.
Prayer is an efficient and powerful tool. It is essential for each one of us to pray and/or meditate. Requesting blessings and giving thanks is of ultimate benefit – it is also a magnanimous way we can help others and our planet. Joining others in prayer bolsters the energy behind the manifestation and expedites it.


