Guess what?!  I have a surprise for you; you do not have to tolerate or condone negative behavior.  Yes, it can be a positive thing to look at the other person’s perspective, however, you need not put up with name calling, mental, emotional or physical attacks.
As always you have a choice.  You can choose to stay in an ‘attempt’ to change a person, but that will most likely never happen.  Be it from a lover, friend or acquaintance; change starts from within and you may never be that catalyst.  Be loving to yourself first and the rest will follow. ~ Creator

https://thecreatorwritings.wordpress.com/2017/06/25/self-love-first/

God said:

Sure, Beloveds, have a degree of solicitousness for others, yet don’t overdo it. You don’t have to outdo everyone else in this Drama of Life you play in.

Dear Ones, it is not a tribute to you to see anyone as less than you. This is not courtesy from you nor is this to be your fulfillment. Serve in order to serve others.

As for concern for yourself and your sensitivity, you are not a hothouse flower that requires extraordinary attention and special favor. You are a hardy rose.

Yes, by all means, enjoy Life. Let enjoyment be a by-product of your Life. To enjoy is a priority, yet you are here for more than your own personal refreshment.

Be good to yourself, yet forgo pampering yourself. Go for a massage or whatever, yet you, yourself, as an individual, are not the be-all and end-all of your Life. You are greater than how you feel at any given moment. The purpose of your Life is grander than you may have ever thought. Have a bigger view now. You are part of a Grand Creation.

The aim of your Life isn’t for you to pick flowers all day. It is also your privilege to give to others from your heart some of the flowers you pick, not by decree of the world but by your own decree.

There is more to you than meets the eye.

Goodness and mercy do not mean that you are to be over-solicitous. You do not give all of yourself away. I am an advocate of service, yet you are not to sacrifice. You have nothing to prove. You have everything to Be.

Dear Ones, every time you choose not to love, you choose contraction and separation. Every time you choose to love, you choose expansion and connection. Your are in the body, on the planet to experience expansion and connection. Do you see? It is beautifully simple. Always choose love, for it is good for the soul. ~Archangel Gabriel

http://trinityesoterics.com/2017/06/24/daily-message-saturday-june-24-2017/

How beautiful are you; as beautiful as the sky full of stars. How loved are you; as infinitely as anyone can be loved. How cherished are you; you are my perfect gift to your Earth-plane because in you exists everything that I am. ~ Creator

https://thecreatorwritings.wordpress.com/2017/06/24/everything-i-am/

God said:

When you feel a complaint coming on, bless instead.

If someone feels like a thorn in your side, bless him or her one more time.

This lifts you out of the mode of complaint. Feel the difference between your wont to complain and your lack of giving blessing. What a difference.

Imagine the difference one person who turns his plaint into a blessing can make. Imagine the difference two people can make. Imagine the difference ten people giving simple homespun blessings can make. Imagine the difference ten thousand people can make, and why not? Then there really might be nothing left in the world to complain about then.

If you have a complaint, you may have good reason, yet it doesn’t matter whether you do or don’t. Life is not about being justified in your annoyance or short or long-lasting aggravation for even downright suffering.

If you would rather list your complaints, go ahead. This may well be what you have been doing right along. A question to ask yourself is: “Where does complaining get me?” I would say it digs you into a rondel of more and more complaints.

Dear Ones, complaining, whether rightly or wrongly doesn’t matter one whit -- complaining takes you where you have been. When you complain, no matter the various causes and expressions, you are saying, “Poor me.” Where you have been is pseudo-victorious in your victimhood. Do you want sympathy more than you want freedom from complaint?