HEART CONNECTIONS To make a heart connection, it is imperative that you focus your attention on the person, animal or plant that you wish to connect with. In your heart, well up feelings of love. This is best achieved by feeling gratitude for all the blessings in your life. Focus on the other and be grateful for the opportunity to be with this Be-ing. Look beyond their physical body and attempt to see them as they truly are, a reflection of God, pure Love.

Look into their eyes. Gratitude and eye contact will create much more depth. Consciously send them a wave of love and appreciation. No words need to be spoken; the other need not know what you are doing. Even if the other has no idea what you are doing, there will be an energy exchange that will be felt by both of you. If the receiver is open, he will feel a sense of calm and will be more relaxed in your presence. You will be able to sense the receiver’s response, even if he/she does not consciously return your love.

You can do the heart connection anywhere, at anytime, even when you are not near the one you wish to connect with. Smile and send a conscious burst of love to people you pass on the street: the grocery clerk, the gas station attendant, pets, wild animals and the roses in your neighbor’s yard. The more you connect with others, the more you will learn to love unconditionally.

To live for yourself alone has gone out of style. It doesn’t satisfy. Oh, for a time, perhaps, and then you find out that what you at first found satisfying isn’t satisfying any longer. It doesn’t satisfy enough. It is far from enough.
 
For one thing, you are hard to please, and you change your mind. Another thing is that it becomes tiresome to please yourself.  
 
It’s not that you are to forget yourself in the world, yet when you actually encompass the whole Universe, you understand that in service to others is how you do serve yourself.
 
By not always putting yourself first, it isn’t that you erase yourself, not by a long shot, yet you can no longer put yourself routinely before others. Your perceived needs just aren’t so important any longer. In any case, filling your needs to even the brim, does not satisfy, for I made you greater than that. You don’t have to come first. You have a greater Self. Nor are you to think that self-abasement is your choice. Self-abasement often includes putting yourself first in a more obsequious way. It is not that your consideration for the well-being of others makes you outstanding. It does not call attention to you. It does not make you noble. It makes you what I designed you to be.  
 

HJ: Developing emotional intelligence is one of the primary keys to living a deeply fulfilling and successful (how you define that in YOUR own terms) life because it is one of the most fundamental skills we need to navigate our daily lives.  However, it is definitely not taught in most schools or by most parents.  It is something we develop as we travel down the path of self growth and discovery.  Those who master it become masters of their life.

Below you will find 6 of the most important and essential keys to developing your emotional intelligence.

- Truth

How to Increase Your Emotional Intelligence ― 6 Essentials

Six Ways to Increase Your Emotional Intelligence

By Preston Ni, M.S.B.A. | Psychology Today | Preston Ni

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So many of you put tremendous pressure on yourselves in your enlightenment process. Please hear us when we say that you are remarkable beings. You are so innately good, so divine, so brave, so capable! You are the ground crew, choosing to have the experience for all of us to learn and grow from. Just the fact that you have shown up on your planet tells you that you are successful. Take the pressure off yourselves. Know that you are doing a magnificent job. Your unique beingness is more than enough to add immeasurably to the whole! You are loved […]

RELATIONSHIPS   Think of the base of a building in which there are four pillars. If one pillar collapses, the building will fall. The four basic pillars of relationships are love, kindness, empathy and trust. Each of these encompasses a broad range of emotions and possible experiences. Love ranges from absolute hatred or fear to unconditional love. The parameters of kindness range from co-dependency to allowing others to follow their dreams. Empathy ranges from being completely ignorant of another’s emotional state to a feeling that you must persuade others to embrace your beliefs. Trust ranges from total wariness to seeing another as a great Master. Some foundations will remain at a superficial level. These are generally relationships with people you’ve just met or run into occasionally such as the grocery store clerk, post office personnel and people you meet on the street or at social gatherings. Your relationships with these people are dependent on your life experiences and belief codes. If the pillars (belief codes) you set for your relationship foundation include, “If I let someone get close to me, they can hurt me. If someone is kind to me, then I will have to repay that kindness. I don’t want to be bothered by others’ problems; they need to take care of their own problems. People have to earn my trust,” your relationships will likely not grow beyond the moment; there is no bonding. If the pillars you have created include belief codes such as, “In essence, all people are good. I love all without conditions. People are kind.