When you allow your intentions to overcome your resistances, that is, when you allow your desired state to be stronger than your state of resistance, that’s when you will see results and shifting in your field of direct experience. You are responsible for both of these states and you control the amount of energy that flows to each of them.
Your external states do not demand that you flow any energy to them at all, you see. You could just sit there and choose not to respond at all. Sometimes you do. It’s when you begin crafting your responses, rather than just having them reactively, that you get some control over what comes next.
Haven’t you discovered that when someone else jerks your chain that they have controlled you? They got you angry, or sad, or upset or disgusted…somehow eliciting from you thoughts that will not serve you well.