If you do not have compassion for one other thing, have compassion for ones static and stale in their thinking.  The sleeping, unwavering mind needs your love far more than any other. ~ Creator

Dear Ones, so many of you have been hurt in your relationships. In response to that, many of you block yourselves off from love in a desire to keep yourselves safe. We understand this seems like a perfectly logical response, but hear us when we say that pinching off from the love that you are is one of the most painful things you can ever experience. You ARE love. You come from love, and your natural state is to BE love. Isolation is not love. Fear is not love. Distrust is not love. Simply put, you cannot experience unity consciousness and separate yourself at the same time. To deny love is to deny yourself on the deepest level.

What has caused you pain has been the effects of someone operating outside of love. Or perhaps, you have found yourself behaving in ways in your previous relationships that were an indicator of being outside of the love that you are, yourself. If you are having difficulties, it is because you are not experiencing yourself as the love that you are. If you are allowing someone to abuse you, or, if you are not treating others as they deserve, you are no longer allowing love to lead the way.

HEART CONNECTIONS To make a heart connection, it is imperative that you focus your attention on the person, animal or plant that you wish to connect with. In your heart, well up feelings of love. This is best achieved by feeling gratitude for all the blessings in your life. Focus on the other and be grateful for the opportunity to be with this Be-ing. Look beyond their physical body and attempt to see them as they truly are, a reflection of God, pure Love.

Look into their eyes. Gratitude and eye contact will create much more depth. Consciously send them a wave of love and appreciation. No words need to be spoken; the other need not know what you are doing. Even if the other has no idea what you are doing, there will be an energy exchange that will be felt by both of you. If the receiver is open, he will feel a sense of calm and will be more relaxed in your presence. You will be able to sense the receiver’s response, even if he/she does not consciously return your love.

You can do the heart connection anywhere, at anytime, even when you are not near the one you wish to connect with. Smile and send a conscious burst of love to people you pass on the street: the grocery clerk, the gas station attendant, pets, wild animals and the roses in your neighbor’s yard. The more you connect with others, the more you will learn to love unconditionally.

To live for yourself alone has gone out of style. It doesn’t satisfy. Oh, for a time, perhaps, and then you find out that what you at first found satisfying isn’t satisfying any longer. It doesn’t satisfy enough. It is far from enough.
 
For one thing, you are hard to please, and you change your mind. Another thing is that it becomes tiresome to please yourself.  
 
It’s not that you are to forget yourself in the world, yet when you actually encompass the whole Universe, you understand that in service to others is how you do serve yourself.
 
By not always putting yourself first, it isn’t that you erase yourself, not by a long shot, yet you can no longer put yourself routinely before others. Your perceived needs just aren’t so important any longer. In any case, filling your needs to even the brim, does not satisfy, for I made you greater than that. You don’t have to come first. You have a greater Self. Nor are you to think that self-abasement is your choice. Self-abasement often includes putting yourself first in a more obsequious way. It is not that your consideration for the well-being of others makes you outstanding. It does not call attention to you. It does not make you noble. It makes you what I designed you to be.